Pluto is well known for representing power and control in the Astrology chart. I once read a description about Pluto’s power saying “you don’t know how much power is available until its used”. The use of Power is often considered in negative terms such as controlling and manipulating our relationships. If a person wishes to get what they want, they manipulate the bond in the relationship so the other person changes to suit them. What if one person is not willing to allow that kind of power and control in the relationship? Remember the old Mexican Standoff.
Going head to head in such a manner will mean that Pluto’s power eventually needs to go one way or the other. One could imagine an accumulation of stress after a few hours in the above situation. Power battles and other psychological games in relationships tend to reinforce pathology for individuals and often the outcome is “no win-no win”. Things can get bogged down indeed. The Mexican or Pluto Standoff is when we get stuck and no one is prepared to backdown.
One chap the other day decided to take a stand against his powerful and controlling parent by bringing his stand-off into my counselling room. The man held a knife to his body and said he was not going to go home. He had reached a limit in his psychological impasse. He chose to use me, a third party who he did not have power issues with and play it out with dire circumstances. Holding the knife into his body was a very powerful Pluto moment especially when the Psychiatric Emergency Team was called. The person was able to act out his Pluto Standoff in my room but with the authorities instead. In my mind he really enjoyed being powerful in that situation. He did get an hour of power indeed.
Perhaps this is a good chart for a Mexican stand-off, if that is the sort of thing you are after. There is a great deal of excitement and scare in these events. This kind of standoff generates “heat” like an atomic reactor however unfortunately this one eventuated into a meltdown. I would say it is traumatic to see a person be electrocuted by tasar pistol and carried out by several powerful policemen. I guess it is one way to have a Plutonic Standoff.
Some of us like getting bogged down
Power battles and stand offs are not all acted out so obviously. The most difficult kinds of power stand off can involve surreptitious or non direct communications which place pressures on the relational bond. This type of Pluto-Standoff is like a virtual battle involving manoeuvre’s to either control or not be controlled.
Friendships and relationships can go on for years like this. But what for? That is pathological Pluto for you! He relentlessly copes in the best way he knows. Setting up defenses for survival and to protect what fundamentally points to an otherwise, despairing kind of helplessness. Sometimes things do get out of control.
One can either stand their ground within the ‘pluto standoff’ or alternatively walk away from such an involvement. Fuck it I say.